Frequently Asked Questions

One of the most common concerns that arises when considering hiring a doula is that the doula will push out or supplant the partner. This often leads to partners feeling hesitant to have a doula on the team at all. The reality is that, just as often, partners are the ones MOST grateful for having had a doula. You want your beloved to be with you through this experience and to be able to support you while also getting to experience the exhilaration of being present when their child comes into the world. The doula's role is to assist you both in getting the information and guidance you need to have the best experience possible. A few examples: when you're giving birth you need to stay hydrated, nourished, keep your bladder empty, and get rest when possible... the same is true for your partner but they can just as easily forget to care for themselves. A doula helps remind your partner to not only care for you but also for themselves and provides consistent support that allows them to leave the room for necessary breaks knowing that they're not leaving you unwillingly alone. Your partner may also want very much to help you physically in any way possible but understandably not know exactly where and how to do so. A labouring woman is often skilled at giving direct orders as she doesn't have time to not be direct so you're definitely going to be the best guide but having a doula can help encourage your partner to go for the hip compressions or the cool cloth (for example) if they feel hesitant.